Mother’s Day “Give Her Her Flowers”
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ICEBREAKER QUESTION OPTION:
What’s a lesson you learned the hard way?
SERIES: Mother’s Day
TITLE: Give Her Her Flowers: The Authorship and Influence of Women
SPEAKER: Pastor Khasi Cody
Scriptures—
Proverbs 31:1; Proverbs 31:10–27; Proverbs 31:10; Proverbs 31:23; Proverbs 31:28, 31; Proverbs 31:1–9
Summary—
Pastor Khasi’s message on Proverbs 31 challenges us to look beyond a list of virtues and recognize the deeper truth of a mother’s wisdom shaping generations. Before describing a noble woman’s actions, Scripture reveals her lasting influence. Like rubies formed under pressure, the women in our lives are valuable, rare, and worthy of honor. The message reminds us that honoring them should be intentional and consistent—not reserved for special occasions, but practiced regularly through gratitude, words, and appreciation.
Key Takeaways—
Women play a powerful role in God’s story through their wisdom, influence, and leadership.
Proverbs 31 highlights influence over performance, beginning with a king shaped by his mother’s wisdom.
A noble woman is like a ruby—rare, valuable, and refined through pressure over time.
God values character over visibility, even when influence happens behind the scenes.
A woman’s impact strengthens her family, relationships, and community in lasting ways.
Scripture calls us to intentionally and consistently honor women with spoken gratitude and appreciation.
Discussion Questions—
How does seeing women as authors of influence change the way we value their role in Scripture and daily life?
Why does Proverbs 31 begin with a mother’s wisdom, and what does that reveal about influence and legacy?
How has culture misunderstood Proverbs 31, and how can we refocus on character over performance?
What does the comparison to rubies teach us about God’s view of value, character, and refinement?
How can we move from silent appreciation to intentional, spoken honor for the women who shape our lives?
What practical steps can we take to make honoring and encouraging women a consistent rhythm in our families and communities?
Practical Application—
Practice intentional honor – Each week, encourage a woman in your life with specific words of appreciation and gratitude.
Share wisdom and legacy – Write down meaningful lessons you’ve received from influential women and pass them on to others.
Create a culture of honor – Publicly and consistently recognize the women who have shaped your life and family.
Closing Prayer—
Close your session by praying as a group. Thank God for the women who have shaped, strengthened, and authored parts of your story through their wisdom, prayers, and influence. Ask Him to help you consistently see, value, and honor the women around you with intentional words and actions. Pray for the women in your group and community—that they would know their worth comes from God, and that they would feel encouraged, supported, and deeply appreciated. Commit together to being people who give flowers while others can still smell them, choosing to speak honor, gratitude, and blessing regularly rather than waiting for special occasions.
